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Melting the ice: eliminating indifference

December 21, 2020 by Andrew Marshall 2 Comments

melting iceThanks in part to pandemic restrictions, a source of enjoyment for me is going for walks in our local area. There is much rural beauty nearby and there is delight to be found, too, in the surrounding streets. I feel happy when I am walking because the world magically opens up when we look more closely at things.

A layer of ice

Many of the people who are also out walking seem very friendly and respond warmly to a smile and a wave or a hello. On the other hand, quite a few pass by without acknowledging anyone else. Instead of warmth, it is as though there is a glaze of ice, a certain aloofness. There are many reasons why that may be and, after all, any of us can be a little withdrawn or grumpy sometimes.

More important than the response of passers-by to each other, though, is the general human trait of indifference towards those we don’t know, whether individuals or a group. We can often fail to see the light in another person and miss so much. And the reason isn’t somewhere out there; it’s inside, in our own minds.

If it’s in the mind, fix the mind

Indifference is something we urgently need to fix because it results in an absence of joy, of love and a lack of positive action. It is the cause of all apathy. I was once given a piece of advice that, when you see a stranger, to imagine you once knew him or her very well. Imagine that some time in the past, you had a very close connection, now forgotten, when they showed you great kindness. This simple mental adjustment can begin to expand the mind and tickle the heart, melting any ice that may be lingering.

It’s wise not to speak of it because it is an inner practice but, make no mistake, this little technique is very profound if we make it a habit.


Thank you for reading this. Sadly, no courses will be running until circumstances permit. May you have a joyful Christmas season and a happy and healthy new year. Andrew

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Compassion: 4 reasons it’s good for you

July 30, 2016 by Andrew Marshall Leave a Comment

The incredible, dynamic nature of compassion

Compassion is extraordinary. The transforming effect it can have is so powerful that it can change an individual for the better for the rest of his or her life.

Compassion has the power to change because it is dynamic. It releases something within us and unleashes energy that alters our perceptions and the way we think. It breaks down blockages of energy in our system and brings a sense of fulfilment that nothing else quite equals. We sometimes talk about the amazing energy of love; compassion takes that a step further.

Why wise compassion brings joy and completeness

In essence, we are not separate from anything or anyone else. At the deepest level, there is no “else”. As we move a little closer to realising thatcompassion globe in life, barriers and prejudices in our thinking and in our communications begin to dissolve. As they do, we feel more complete.

What is compassion? It is a loving, deep awareness of the needs of others. More than that, it is coupled with a spontaneous desire to remove others’ suffering. It is an attitude of total selflessness, yet it brings immense benefits.

Four reasons we need compassion

  1. Compassion liberates us. It gives us freedom because we have to let go of self-interest. In energy terms, that means we let go of all clinging or grasping and as we do that our energy channels become more open. We release mental and emotional tension and consequently physical tension, too. We feel freer in ourselves because we focus less on our own problems or what we perceive as our problems. As we do that, they fall into perspective and shrink in importance.
  2. Compassion helps us in our relationships because we become less concerned with what we want out of them. The same principle applies whether it is a close, personal relationship or a business one, for example. Outwardly, our behaviour may not change very much. The important thing is our attitude. Our view of the relationship will be easier and often the other person will sense we are easier with them. Sometimes we may see a difficult relationship in a different light. For example, we may have been straining to be liked and discover we can let go.
  3. Compassion can benefit our health. Both physical and mental health will tend to improve as we let go and start to give of ourselves more easily. The brain produces more endorphins and so we feel happier. As a result, the immune system tends to be stronger and the quality of life improves. The prospects of life being shortened by stress are much reduced. We could say, therefore, that compassion is good for health, for quality of life and for longevity!
  4. Compassion develops the heart energy centre. The heart centre or chakra unfolds as we develop our spiritual qualities. As it does so, energy to the other chakras in a very natural and safe way. Those who try to “open their chakras” by artificial means are often beingcompassion heart circle misled by those who really ought to know better. Artificially trying to force our energy centres to open rarely works satisfactorily. It is always safe to work with the heart centre by developing the qualities of love and compassion. The results are strong and stable.

Compassion needs wisdom, too

These wonderful results come from wise compassion. Being compassionate does not mean being soft or being a do-gooder. A truly compassionate person is strong, stronger than most in fact, and is not easily manipulated. The compassionate person can say no when necessary. He or she doesn’t have a hidden agenda which demands that they need to please the other person. True compassion requires honesty and truthfulness. That doesn’t mean we have to be blunt. If to tell someone the truth is going to them pain, the compassionate person will strive to reduce that hurt to a minimum and will know not to say anything at all if it isn’t necessary.

To know which is right takes wisdom and wisdom comes from being in touch with our own nature. This doesn’t happen overnight. Developing true wisdom and compassion is a task for life. But every step on the way brings us closer to completeness and being a better, and more useful, human being.

From The Secret Power of Compassion, chapter 7 of The Great Little Book of Happiness

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Release energy with an amazing technique

March 20, 2016 by Andrew Marshall Leave a Comment

Releasing energy is hugely liberating. Of course, it’s not a brilliant idea just to let off steam willy-nilly because we may unwittingly cause harm to others, if not ourselves. But if we know how to release energy in the most positive way, the results can be amazing.

Open the blinds

When we hold back on generosity, it is evidence of tension. If we are the really stingy type, we are very tight open blinds release energyinside, and not just in the wallet. Our internal energy is cramped and at some time that is likely to be reflected in our physical health. Most of us, though, are not mean but often there is an underlying fear of giving. Perhaps we believe somehow it will lead to our impoverishment or to our being taken advantage of. It’s a bit like keeping the blinds closed all day so that no-one can see in. But the light can’t come in either, nor can we see out.

The opposite is to become self-liberated. The liberated person has learned how to release energy so that it circulates freely.

Here is an incredibly simple technique that can help us to do the same. It is a mental process that begins to reshape the mind.

Release energy with the mind

Say quietly (i.e. mentally) to everyone you meet:

  • “I give you all that I have. I wish you great joy and a happy, long life.”

The exact words are not crucial but the thought must be sincere. Really mean what you say. “I give you all that I have” is a great releasing of any attachment we may have. “I wish you great joy and a happy, long life” is wishing the very best for the other person and by wishing happiness for others we sow very positive seeds indeed for our own and others’ peace of mind and happiness.

  • “I give you all that I have. I wish you great joy and a happy long life.”

Please practise this often and always with sincerity. If you do nothing else from this series of posts, please do this because it really will bring great rewards. If you see someone suffering, use the same or similar words and add:

  • “I wish you release from all your suffering.”

Wishing the opposite for others

So, if a person is sick, wish them health. If they are worried, wish them freedom from worry, and so on. Whatever unhappy state or condition they have, wish them the opposite. We don’t say the words out loud but think them as though we were saying them.

Practise this wonderfully simple but effective technique on others as much as you can, whether you know them or not. The effect on our mind is quite remarkable and we release energy so that it can circulate freely.

And don’t forget yourself in this – we often think we don’t deserve happiness, so imagine practising it to an image of yourself, too. That odd person we see in the bathroom mirror deserves happiness, too, so wish it for them!

More on this in The Great Little Book of Happiness

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Letting go – the first stage in giving

March 7, 2016 by Andrew Marshall Leave a Comment

Letting go is amazing. It is part of the art of generosity, which is a very powerful and remarkable skill.

It is extraordinarily effective in changing our thought patterns, our emotions and the energies within our vital body, which affects our health and well-being. But it is an art. The skill in this art is acquired; some of it was almost certainly present when we were small children but for most of us a great deal of it has been knocked out of us or overshadowed by daily living. Western society has many strengths but one of its major drawbacks is the acquisitive style of life that it encourages. Life conditions us to want things for ourselves and so the natural innocence that gives rise to spontaneous giving is often absent. But that trend can be reversed and when we start to develop the generous spirit within us, a state of joyousness naturally arises.

Letting go is the first stage. The acquisitive style of life, which encourages us to accumulate and hang onto things, gives us an energy pattern of “holding on”. That holding on might be in relation to possessions or money or to circumstances or relationships. It can also be in relation to less tangible things such as our time, our love, our caring and so on. Holding on, or failing to give wholeheartedly, actually deprives us of energy and quality of life. It prevents us from contacting our own nature. Instead of bringing happiness, our attachment brings stagnation into our energy system. It also gives birth to the fear of loss.

Letting go of tension

letting goJust for a moment, imagine holding something in your hand that someone is trying to take it from you. Notice how the tension in your hand increases as you tighten your grip. Conversely, if you want to give away whatever it is you are holding, notice the relaxation that comes. And did you notice that the tension wasn’t just in the hand? It is impossible to grip the hand without causing tension up the whole arm. Mentally it is not much different. The sense of anxiety that can build up when we fear losing something causes a tension that runs right through us. It is no coincidence that the words “miserliness” and “miserable” come from the same Latin root meaning “wretched”.

Now, when we give something, we have the opportunity to release mental and emotional tension. If we give easily, our energy will feel lighter because our heart centre will be freer. We just let go of whatever it is we have and, if we do it with loving kindness, we give it a little helpful push on the way. We then have more energy; we feel better. It might seem odd but the more we give, the better off we are.

letting goBut we have to give well. By that, I mean if we give begrudgingly or with reservation, we hold something back. There will be some benefit but not as much. If we hold back when we give, it is like letting something go out of our hand but there is till some tension in our grip. Similarly, if we give something with expectation of recognition or of thanks, there is some tension in that giving. We are not giving wholeheartedly because we have added a condition to it – there is a subtle acquisitiveness to our giving and so it isn’t selfless.

 An art that is part of Zen

That is why generosity is an art. We have to re-educate ourselves into becoming totally generous human beings. We need to learn to give unconditionally. As we do so, our happiness increases as the “petals of the heart lotus” open, letting in the sunshine of our true nature. But it takes considerable training for most of us. If we are honest, we might be good at giving some things but certainly not at giving others.

Letting go fearlessly is part of Zen. Zen tells us that there is nothing to hold onto, that no loss is possible. The giver, the recipient and the act of giving are one. But we are not enlightened yet, so we take one step at a time. Learning to release our grip is the first step. Observing when we resist is the second.

Adapted excerpt from Chapter 3 of The Great Little Book of Happiness

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