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Blamelessness – part of letting go

January 15, 2016 by Andrew Marshall 1 Comment

Blamelessness is freedom

Blamelessness is a state of a mind that is free; and in an unshackled mind, there is no room for grudge or blame.

To be free, we must understand very clearly that holding onto a grudge or resentment in no way harms the person we blame for some wrongdoing. We may think we are fully justified and in some slightly warped and unseen way believe that we are meting out justice. But in reality, we’re not. Okay, it may make things difficult or a little unpleasant but that is all. On the other hand, it can cause us great damage in terms of happiness and well-being. It most definitely reduces our capacity to love others and to be a useful member of society.Blamelessness

Is there any reason why should we not let go? The short answer is “no”. There might be a million and one reasons why a finger can be pointed at someone who has done dreadful things, but blamelessness is not the same as condoning wrong actions. We are not in the business of saying a terrible deed or omission is acceptable.

The essence of blamelessness is to release ourselves and free our own energy by seeing the truth that underlies the appearance. We need to see the deeper picture. Our resentment arises from false perception – we build up a picture of presumptions and judgments. We need to change our perception, and if we do the resentment dissolves.

A simple technique for letting go of blame

There are many ways of changing our perception – for example by analysing all the causes and conditions that gave rise to the action we resent, by taking into account the incredibly complex law of karma or cause and effect. But we don’t normally have the time to do this, or the inclination. Although for very deep issues some sort of analysis may be helpful, there is a simpler method that is both very practical and easy to use. It is this:

  • See the other person as a child.

It really is that simple. If we see the other person as a child (and ourselves, for that matter), we will see that it is possible, inevitable even, for Blamelessness childthat person to make mistakes and even do serious wrongs. But a child is not judged or condemned for ever and eventually grows up and out of his or her bad habits. Each one of us is a child in spiritual terms. We are all thoroughly immature. So we need to understand when seeing the other person as a child that we are a child also and from time to time we, too, make mistakes. At first sight, this technique may seem naïve – but it is incredibly effective and, in terms of releasing our energy, can be extremely profound.

More on this in The Great Little Book of Happiness. This article is an adaptation of an extract from Chapter 2.

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Does how you think affect your health?

November 13, 2015 by Andrew Marshall Leave a Comment

When I was small, my parents used to have many ways of trying to coax us children to behave and tell the truth. Perhaps you, too, believed that telling fibs could give you a severe case of spots on the tongue. I also have a vivid recollection of being told that we all have a soul that is normally white if we are good but has shadows and black spots on it from when we misbehave. If that were true, goodness knows what mine would look like now but at the time I had an image in my mind of an amorphous white blob floating somewhere above my head, peppered with many dark bits and looking like a misshapen steamed suet pudding full of over-sized raisins.cake

What they were saying in an oblique sort of way, though, was that all our actions and words have consequences and that those consequences impinge on our future happiness or spiritual well-being. That isn’t a thought just for children – it applies, perhaps even more strongly, throughout our adult life.

Cause and effect

According to the law of cause and effect, every action, on every level, has consequences. That means that everything we do, say, and indeed think, is a seed that will have a future effect. Some of those seeds are weak and the consequences will be insignificant but others will obviously have more impact. Words said in anger, for instance, come out in an instant yet the effects can be dire and long-lasting. But what about thoughts? Do unexpressed thoughts sow seeds?

ThinkingThere is an extremely close connection between the mind – our mental energy – and our physical and emotional energy. Whatever we think has some impact somewhere. Our body is a complex energy field and through it runs a network of subtle energy channels, like a vast web. This energy is sometimes called “chi”. When our thinking is positive, the chi in our bodies tends to be more vibrant and flows well. Good and plentiful chi results in increased vitality, a greater sense of well-being and a stronger immune system. We often say that someone “radiates good health” and  most of us can sense the energy radiating from someone with a positive outlook.

Now what happens when we have a negative thought? We can feel on top of the world and someone will say something and we “sink to our boots”. The energy changes, doesn’t it? It withdraws.  It isn’t the direct effect of what the other person says that causes the energy change but how we perceive it. Our mind goes into a negative state and we don’t feel good anymore.

A black hole

That’s an example of a clear immediate reaction but the effects of long-term negative thinking can be disastrous. Our energy field takes on a semi-permanent state of withdrawal – like a “mini black hole”. Instead of flowing well, our chi begins to stagnate, causing congestion in our energy field and our body.

The trouble is that once we start thinking in a certain way, it is difficult to stop. One thought creates (or causes) another thought and negative thinking in particular can quickly become habitual. It follows the path of least resistance, like a body slumping from the pull of gravity rather than sitting or standing straight. There is a downward spiral and it becomes difficult to sustain a positive train of thought for long, or at all. Our energy, our chi, is poor and later, if not earlier, in life our mental and physical health will suffer.

Butterfly mind syndrome

Rather than being particularly positive or negative, our thinking may just be chaotic. We think of one thing, then another; then we hear a sound or something said and we’re off again. Or we pick up a magazine, our smartphone or tablet and our mind is distracted here, there and everywhere. Then our energy is scattered, loose, and untidy. Our chi is incoherent and out of balance; our energy field becomes weak and leaky – we are like a pot with cracks or holes. This is what happens when we are unfocused. Scattered thinking doesn’t necessarily make us feel bad in the short-term – it’s just tiring – but over time it depletes our energy reserves. The only way to overcome this is to draw our thinking and our energy in. We’ll look at this at a later date.

Good, positive, selfless thinking will sow seeds for a happier and more positive outlook on life; that in turn will lead to positive speech and positive actions all of which will produce good or positive effects on our health. But positive thinking by itself isn’t enough. It won’t work unless we unload some of our baggage and clutter. And that’s what we’ll start to do next.

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To be free, understand cause and effect

November 8, 2015 by Andrew Marshall Leave a Comment

How the law of cause and effect rules our lives

Links of cause and effectTied in with the quest for deeper understanding, fulfilment and happiness is the amazing law of cause and effect. Sometimes, particularly in a spiritual or quasi-spiritual context, the expression “law of karma” is used. “Karma” simply means action but is often used to imply the fruits or results of actions, whether one’s own or someone else’s. It’s an expression that unfortunately is often misused and misunderstood, often leading to “deep and meaningful” discussions when often a straightforward explanation is all that is needed.

Simply stated, the law of cause and effect means that every effect, every set of circumstances, has its cause or causes. If I burn my hand on the oven door, for example, there are a number of causes that lead up to it, the simplest of which are my movements, the heat of the door and, almost certainly and most importantly, my lack of attention or co-ordination. On a grander scale, an earthquake has certain geological causes and so on. For physical events, the law is very easy to understand. Where we can often lose vision is in the application of the law in our own lives.

Nothing, absolutely nothing, in our present circumstances is without preceding causes. Things don’t happen “just by chance” – there is always a reason. We might put certain events down to luck but luck or fortune, good, bad or indifferent, is simply the law of cause and effect taking its course. The word “simply” is perhaps an overstatement because cause and effect is incredibly complex and we’ll need to have a deeper look at some of its implications later on; but let’s just say for now that this law is inescapable. When we start to understand it better, we begin to realise that there is no use at all in blaming others (which is a favourite human pastime) for our predicaments or for our state of mind. We have to take responsibility and there’s no copping out.

To be continued.

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